Happy Things That Can #Stress You Out

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“There’s no such thing as fun for the whole family.” – Jerry Seinfeld

(The following excerpt taken from 7 Happy Life Events That Commonly Cause Stress by Carolyn Gregoire was originally posted on huffingtonpost.com on 03/23/2013. To view it in its entirety please click on the link below.)

It’s an unfortunate paradox that many of life’s most momentous occasions are both the best of times and the worst of times. The events that should be some of the most joyful -– getting married, having kids, taking time off work to travel abroad –- can also be the most stress-inducing. Whether it’s the pressure of planning a major event or the anxiety of trying to live up to our own expectations of how happy we should be, once-joyful milestones can easily devolve into anxiety-filled occasions.

These include:

1. Taking a vacation

2. Sundays

3. Getting a new job or promotion

4. Falling in love

5. Birthdays

6. Being engaged

7. Retiring

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/03/23/10-happy-life-events-that_n_2761433.html?utm_hp_ref=mostpopular#slide=2255005

24 Canadianisms Way More Interesting Than “Eh?” #Canada

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We adore our neighbor to the north… but do wish they’d call their damn geese home!

The first and last historical dictionary of Canadian English, A Dictionary of Canadianisms on Historical Principles, was published in 1967. A new edition has been in the works since 2005, and is scheduled for publication in 2014, but in the meantime the original dictionary has been put online and makes a wonderful place to search or browse through the wordy history of “our neighbors to the North” (either an Americanism or a cliché, depending on how you feel about it). Here are some Canadianisms that are much more interesting than the usual “eh?”

1. BACK JUNK

“Junk” was a word for a chunk of log or piece of firewood. “Back junk” is defined as “a large log placed at the back of a wood fire to make it last.”

2. CALGARY REDEYE

Skip the Bloody Mary and have one of these, “a mixture of tomato juice and beer, a drink associated with Calgary, Alberta, and the surrounding area.”

3. CALUMET FEVER

A term used among Ottawa valley lumberjacks, it referred to the “fear of riding a crib of logs down the slide at Calumet, Quebec.”

4. FISHOCRACY

A term describing the structure of the Newfoundland fishing industry. A 1940 source explains, “the fishocracy comprised in descending order: (1) the principal merchants, high officials, and some lawyers and medical men; (2) small merchants, important shopkeepers, lawyers, doctors, and secondary officials; (3) grocers, master mechanics, and schooner holders; and (4) fishermen.”

5. HOGTOWN

A nickname for Toronto which some say harkens back to its role in the meat-packing industry, but which the dictionary says is “so called because outsiders accuse Torontonians of taking everything unto themselves.”

6. HYDRO

Hydro-electric power. Canadians still talk about dealing with their “hydro bill.”

7. IDIOT STICK

A small, cheap version of a Native totem pole sold to tourists in British Columbia.

8. IMPROVED BRITISHER

Good-natured teasing term for “an immigrant from the British Isles, especially an Englishman, who has been in Canada long enough to have lost some of his native shortcomings.” See also, “improved Scotsman.”

9. JAWBONE

An old Western slang term for credit, “presumably because the jawbone had to be exercised in speaking to win over the creditor.” A 1966 citation reads, “the mower parts would have been charged or, in the language of the country, put on his jawbone.”

10. MAL DE RAQUETTE

From the French for “snowshoe sickness.” It refers to “a painful state of inflamed joints and muscles affecting snowshoers, caused by undue strain on the tendons of the leg.”

11. MOOSE MILK

Northern slang for moonshine, it has also come to refer to mixed drinks based on rum and milk.

12. MOSCOVADOEY

A term from Eastern Quebec for snow with the texture of muscovado (raw sugar).

13. MUDPUP

A term for “a young Englishman sent out to Western Canada to learn farming.” A 1955 source claims that “when the war [WWI] started the Mud Pups joined up to the last man and the bachelor population of Duncan vanished overnight.”

14. MUFFIN

A 1965 history explains, “at the beginning of the winter season each young man chose ‘a muffin’—a ‘steady date’ for the season—an arrangement terminated by mutual consent in the following spring.” An 1865 book also gave the term “muffinage” for the state of being hooked up with a muffin. But an 1873 source claimed “no lady owned to ever having been a muffin, at least not until she knew her young man well enough to tell him so.”

15.OGOPOGO

sea monster said to live in Okanagan Lake in British Columbia. A 1936 source describes what he looks like: “Ogopogo’s head is slightly reminiscent of Henry VIII, he has a torso like an accordeon, and a tail like a shillelagh.”

16. RUBABOO

A stew of pemmican, flour, and various other things on hand. Now used figuratively for a mishmash of varied stuff. An arts festival in Alberta calls itself Rubaboo after “a Michif (Métis) word meaning a stew that’s full of life and food that feeds the spirit.”

17. SUGARING-OFF

“The process of boiling maple sap to make syrup and sugar through evaporation and crystallization.” Also, “a party held in the sugar bush at the time of sugaring-off.”

18. WINNIPEG COUCH

A simple couch that could be opened into a bed. According to a 1958 source “the Winnipeg couch was a fine oldtimer, built of solid iron and coil springs in those days when Canadians fell into bed with their boots on.”

The new edition of A Dictionary of Canadianisms on Historical Principles will include terms that came into use after the 1967 edition, such as:

19. ALL-DRESSED

“All optional garnishes on fast food items.” (Eastern Canada)

20. BUNNY HUG

“A hooded sweatshirt.” (Saskatchewan)

21. LOONIE

“One dollar coin.”

22. MANGIA-CAKE

“A name used by Italian-Canadians in a jocular or derogatory way to refer to ‘a non-Italian white person with characteristic North American traits and customs.”

23. MIDGET

“A level of amateur sports for players usually aged 16-17″; or “a player in such a league.”

24. TOONIE

“Two dollar coin.”

Got a Canadianism you’re worried they might miss? They’re taking suggestions!

Read the full text here: http://mentalfloss.com/article/49419/24-canadianisms-way-more-interesting-eh#ixzz2OYM7rZfK
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8 Keys To #Resiliency

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“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired and success achieved.” – Helen Keller

(The following excerpt taken from Eight Keys To Life Hardiness And Resiliency by Preston Ni, M.S.B.A. in Communication Success, originally appeared on psychology today.com on February 11, 2012. To view it in its entirety please click on the link below.)

As we navigate through challenging times toward a better future, it’s useful to visit some tried and true ideas regarding life hardiness and resiliency. This is not meant to be an exhaustive list, but rather a reminder of some existential ideas we sometimes set aside as we tend to the hectic details of daily life. If you find this article helpful, share it with those whom you care about who are in need. There’s power in good will reverberated.

1. The power of perspective

2. Don’t focus on the mud

3. All you have to do is ask…the right individuals

4. Thrive on your strengths while exploring new potential

5. Keep the fun and enjoyment

6. Keep your options open

7. Keep the faith

8. Resolve to never, ever give up

http://www.psychologytoday.com/collections/201303/what-doesnt-break-you/eight-keys-life-hardiness-and-resiliency?page=2

SIngle Parents: Unsupported and Feeling The Blame

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We as a society can do better for children raised by single mothers — and for families headed by single parents in general. All of the work-life-balance conversation that’s dominated this blog and much of the news media for weeks comes down to this same problem: It’s difficult to raise children in a society that assumes there’s a parent at home, and one in which the guiding philosophy for supporting families is “every man for himself.” That struggle is magnified for single parents.

http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2013/03/20/single-parents-unsupported-and-feeling-the-blame/?src=rechp

Are #Female Friendships More Intense Than #Male #Friendships?

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“Male friendships may lack the intimacy found in many female friendships, but men aren’t as burned by friends as women are.” – Jessica Smock

(The following excerpts from Are Female Friendships More Intense Than Male Friendships? by Jessica Smock was originally posted on rolereboot.org on March 13, 2013. To view it in its entirety please click on the link below.)

Female friendships are notoriously intense. They can be as passionate as the most all-consuming love affair, as close as a family bond, as supportive as the best therapist, but as toxic as the worst poison.

As most men would likely agree, I think, male friendship is not the same. But are male friendships just different, or are they somehow inferior?

If friendships are based on a few important things - reciprocity, self-disclosure, and intimacy—men seem to have a little more trouble with the emotional intimacy and sharing that are critical to developing and sustaining friendships over time.

So maybe both men and women can learn a little from each other about how to cultivate and appreciate friendships. Women can take a few lessons from men, who have fewer intimate friendships but are less prone to the complexities of rivalries, jealousy, and emotional manipulation. In turn, men can use their friendships as practice for talking about their feelings and needs. Certainly, the women in their lives might appreciate it.

http://www.rolereboot.org/life/details/2013-03-are-female-friendships-more-intense-than-male-friend

Treating #Pain: Sorry, Girls, But It’s Still a Man’s World

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The oft-cited study “The Girl Who Cried Pain: A Bias Against Women in the Treatment of Pain” found that women were less likely to receive aggressive treatment when diagnosed, and were more likely to have their pain characterized as “emotional,” “psychogenic” and therefore “not real.”

Instead of appropriate care for physical pain, this can lead to treatment for mental health issues that might not even exist. The situation is further complicated by the fact that antidepressants are absorbed differently in women and vary in effectiveness, depending on hormonal cycles.

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/03/17/opinion/sunday/women-and-the-treatment-of-pain.html?hp

Optimism: The #Luck Of The #Irish … #StPatricksDay

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“From optimistic to lucky is only a short leap of faith.”
- Patty O’Grady, Ph.D.
(The following excerpt from Optimism: The Luck Of The Irish by Patty O’Grady, Ph.D., was originally posted on March 16, 2013, on pyschologytoday.com. To view it in its entirety please click on the link below.)
Optimism is a key theme in positive psychology and luck is a key theme among the Irish. Not surprisingly, optimism and luck are first cousins. One of the defining characteristics of people who consider themselves ‘lucky’ is optimism or the belief that the person is ‘lucky’. The Irish often reflect on how lucky they are to be alive…to have a roof that does not leak…to have a potato in the pot…to have a coin in their pocket. A typical Irish blessing blends the hopefulness of optimism with the anticipation of good luck: “May the sun always shine on your windowpane and a rainbow follow after each rain and good luck follow you down the lane.”
Neuroscience informs us that children and adolescents (and all of us!) have brains that are hardwired to optimism. From the science of optimism, it is easy to extract four ideas that convert optimism into good luck. I call these ideas the Four Good Luck Shamrock Lessons:
1.  Envision Possibilities
2.  Predict Good Outcomes
3.  Reflect And Reframe Setbacks
4.  Anticipate Good Feelings